I can confidently say that if you see someone that does not have self regard, you will treat the person without regard. Regard means respect while self regard means respect for yourself. Not regarding yourself is telling everyone that you are not worthy of regard from them. The popular phrase, dress how you want to be addressed proves why we need to regard our self first before expecting regard from anyone. People treat others by what they see and think of them. It is your job to make people see and think of you as someone that is worthy of regard. Though, irrespective of how you appear, regard should still be given to all and not disregard. But to avoid bewilderment which is confusion, it is obligatory to regard yourself. Because it is obligatory to regard yourself, don’t say others are wicked when they don’t regard you because you don’t regard yourself. Not that I’m wicked but of if I see that you don’t have regard for yourself, I will treat you without regard because I will assume you don’t want to be regarded.
Not only do you need to have self regard for others to regard you, you need it for self love. To love yourself means you regard yourself. In my post titled the #1 attitude to self improvement. I wrote “It is very unfortunate as there are a lot of people who think of themselves as ugly, not good enough, nothing and irrelevant. When you love yourself, you respect yourself. They teach us to respect others but forgot to teach us to respect ourselves. Loving yourself starts with respecting yourself. We learn to love ourselves, respect and begin the steps in self improvement. If you love anyone, then you obviously, you want the best for them, The kind of love we give to our lover, family and even material things should be the same way or more that we should give to our self because we deserve the best always.” To know the importance of self love and how to love yourself, read my post on the #1 attitude to self improvement. Because self improvement is very vital in our daily living, we need to regard ourself so we can be able to love ourself for self improvement. If you regard yourself, it means you love yourself.
I believe we all want to be regarded but it probably doesn’t occur to us to regard ourselves. We are not conscious of ourselves most of the time but with self appraisal, you can be conscious of yourself for self regard. Under the moot point below, how to regard yourself, you will find how to use self appraisal to get conscious of yourself. People that have regard for themselves are mostly labelled as wicked, self centered or not understanding in which these things are not who you are but what they seem you are. You cannot satisfy everybody. Your self regard is more important than what people seem you to be. Those people you see and envy that have self regard in which people also have regard for have really made you think self regard might seem like rocked science i.e difficult. I am joyed to tell you that giving yourself self regard is not that difficult.
How to regard your self
One of the ways to give yourself self regard is by discovering yourself. Self discovery plays a very important role in regarding yourself. Self discovery on it’s own, shows that you have a very high level of respect for yourself. I made it the number one point in how to regard yourself because of the how much respect you can get, how much value you can feel from your self from self discovery. Read my post titled the power of self discovery to feel value from yourself and regard yourself. In that post the power of self discovery, I wrote “Self discovery is having a deep insight into yourself which I recommend it is done as frequent as possible. The main reason we have a lot of people with low self esteem, lack of confidence, more people being rejected, hateful people, jealous people, depressed people and all other low rated attitudes is because we don’t see self discovery as an important practice and because the school and the society did not teach us the importance of self discovery, self value, self worth and self love. Self discovery is knowing your capabilities, your talents, your dreams, understanding how your perspective is being perceived in the society, how you perceive yourself, who you are e.t.c” In that post, I gave four ways with explanations in which you can discover yourself which will help you in regarding yourself.
- Seek for information about your attitude
- Focus on your inner voice than what you hear from the outside
- Identify what’s best for you and focus on them
- Trust yourself more and trust nobody
Read the post the power of self discovery for the explanation.
Self discovery plays a very important role in regarding yourself. Self discovery on it’s own, shows that you have a very high level of respect for yourself. I made it the number one point in how to regard yourself because of the how much respect you can get, how much value you can feel from your self from self discovery. After reading this post, the power of self discovery, you will know how to feel value from yourself and how to regard yourself.
Ask yourself what type of respect do you want and how you can gain the respect. Change the way you dress, speak, eat, talk, sleep. You can even go to the extent of changing your type of job. There are some jobs I cannot do. Not that the income of those jobs is not favorable but doing those jobs are not going to get me the respect I want from myself and from other.
Appraise yourself: Because self respect is not a conscious act which will lead us to forget regarding ourself, we will need to practice the attitude of self appraisal. Self appraisal is analyzing and judging yourself. Analyzing and judging yourself will let you know the level at which you are at regarding yourself. It will help you to be conscious of yourself and improve on regarding yourself.
Adore yourself: In the past, before I discovered myself, I was blinded by others and not by myself. I showed myself almost no love at all but really cared for others. Loving people is great but is shouldn’t be at the expense of you not loving yourself. After I discovered myself, I changed my dress style, I get all sort of accessories for myself, I get myself what I love ice-cream, shawarma and so on. I am happy with how far I have come.
Lastly, regarding yourself also requires you not to be scared to say no and to be a good person. To know the importance of not being scared to say no and to be a good person read my post titled don’t be scared to say no and be a good person. Knowing the importance will help you to regard yoursel