It can be very terrifying when friends leave you in bad times. Especially for those that trusted those friends and relied on them in bad situations. It’s either some of those friends make you feel they are not ready to hear your problems, they are happy you are in that situation or are ashamed of you and leave. In my article 5 thought provoking questions that will change your life, One of the questions was “Are your friends your enemies?” If you had known who your friends were, you might not have been in the situation of your friends leaving you in bad times. Don’t hold any grudges when your friends leave because the effect it can have on your health can be detrimental. You have to heal from the bad situation you are in first. If you hold any grudges knowing fully well you are still in that bad situation can cause harm to yourself and others. Friends will leave good or bad times. In good times, they are hating on your life’s progress. In my post 4 motivations for dark days, I wrote “these dark days are light days in disguise which means you are not in the dark.” Since you failed to know if your friends were your enemies before the bad situation, the bad situation has made you know if your friends are your enemies. It is now time to know the kinds of friends you should welcome into your home to have a chat with you or the kinds of friends that you tell to have a chat with you in a bar. Your friends can change your life and can also ruin your life. Choose them wisely.
In my post trust, I wrote “Of all the things to use to form trust was with rust. I will conclude that trusting cannot exist without rusting”. If you also read my post trust no man, you will know reasons you should not trust yourself. It was because you trusted your friends and relied on them that caused you to be in this rusty time. There are worse cases like families leaving bad times. Yours is friends leaving you. What do you expect those that their families left to do? If you are down because your friends left, then those their families left should be dead. Friends might leave, family might leave and people you never thought would be there are the ones that might be there for you. The common habit with people when friends and families leave in bad times is never to let anyone come in their life again. Locking everyone out of your life is not the solution to the problem but knowing if your friends are your enemies. Like I wrote earlier, that way you will now know the kinds of friends you should welcome into your home to have a chat with you or the kinds of friends that you tell to have a chat with you in a bar. Learn to understand people to keep a healthy relationship. You never know who you might need tomorrow. It might be that bad person you thought was bad you will need. Read my post on how to keep a healthy relationship with friends and family for a healthy relationship with people