The Little Things Matter the Most

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Why does the little things matter? The little things matter because it is the little things when add up together forms the big things. When we do the little things correctly, we get a big perfect satisfying result.
Your little attitudes determine who you attract to your life. According to the popular phrase, “if you want to catch a fool, you have to act like a fool”. Act like what you want to attract in your life.
We love somethings and hate other things
We can accommodate some attitudes and cannot just stand others
We judge correctly and we misjudge. We overlook the little things thinking they don’t have any have any effect on us but it is the little things that have a huge effect on us over time.
The more we become aware and observant of our actions, behaviors, thinking, attitudes, surroundings and how we respond to these things, our lives becomes better.

Have you ever been in a situation just like the one have been in where you and your friend are going on a stroll and you meet another mutual friend on the way. The mutual friend said hello to you but didn’t say hello to your other friend. Because the mutual friend didn’t say hello to the friend you where strolling with, made your friend upset and started keeping malice with the mutual friend for as long as you can imagine? If something as little as not saying hi within a second can cause a 1 year malice then the  way we care for the big things is the same way we should care for the small things.

I cannot work in an untidy environment. It will be difficult for me to work for the big things when my environment is untidy.

Every action we make every second, day, month and year determines our attitude. . Everyone is watching your little and irrelevant actions. People are taking notes. Make those little actions count. Your actions also determine your future. If you make the right attitudes, you will have the desired result of the future you want
The little things are easily overlooked because they are little. Over look the little things and see the big things fading.

Your Life or Theirs?

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What do you understand by the title of this post? With your understanding, what is your reply to the title question? If you chose your life? Why? And why not theirs? If you chose theirs, Why? And why not yours? Is your life better than theirs or theirs better than yours? Have you defined your life? Have they defined your life? Have they defined their life or you defined it for them? What is the definition of your life and theirs? Most times, people say you should always appreciate yourself and your life but then appreciating another person’s life is not a bad idea because it shows a sign of love. Wanting to have another person’s life is mostly seen as bad but I will say it is bad when you look down on yourself.

Your life or theirs? Why should I have to ask you your life or theirs? If anyone should ask you such a question you should reply asking the person with why are you asking me? Because you need to know and make sure the person is not asking thinking one life is better than the other. You cannot be answering such a question in that perspective but rather motivating the person. That is why we should always be aware about what we are venturing into.

If I’m to ask you to advice me on which to pick between my life or theirs, how will you advice me? Why do I want you to advice me? Because we all need advice, no advice is better than the other. We can all learn from each other. I will appreciate if you can write your advice down in the comment section for me and others to learn after you are done reading my own advice.

Your life should be your first choice because without your life, how will you appreciate another person’s life? Appreciate your life and everything concerning you first. After appreciating and loving your life then you can comfortably appreciate or love another person life. Similar to the explanation I gave in paragraph one, and referring to one of my posts (poem) titled be yourself, I wrote

We are all arts
Every art in the museum has it’s unique beauty
If you don’t represent your uniqueness,
Who will do that for you?

How will your beauty be seen?
We are all beautiful in our own ways
Be yourself
Love everything about you

Nurture your uniqueness,
So the world can see your beauty”

We should cultivate the habit of not comparing one another, making some people feel less than others and others feeling better than others as such behavior can cause depression. Our aim should be eradicating depression and low self-esteem and promoting togetherness, one love, loving each other’s uniqueness for the best living we can ever imagine. It is human to be jealous, think of yours as bad or think of others as better but they are not healthy thoughts for you and also others and such thought does not help in self and society development because such thought can lead to unfavorable behaviours.

Our upbringing from family and society and our natural behaviours greatly has an effect on how we think and understand and that is why we should always develop ourselves frequently to better understand our life and others. Understand and know yourself better, develop yourself physically, mentally and spiritually every day to keep you glowing. To help develop yourself, you can read my post that explains how you can live a life to improve your body, mind and soul how I (to) live a healthy life. Their life is theirs and it is also their responsibility to love, develop and choose their life first so they can also appreciate and love your life.

I will ask you again your life or theirs?

Never Dim Your Light For Anyone

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In trying to achieve what you set our mind to do, one challenge you are likely to face is the challenge of coming across people that will want to you to reduce your light for them so that they can be noticed. People will even go to the extent of making you feel like a bad person and a wicked person for your own reward of your work, blessing or success. You reap what you sow. If you give out what you reaped then that is very bad. It means you are giving your success out.

I have a very close friend that started something she loved even if she was scared about the success of the thing she started. When she started, everything was going well for her but as she continues, friends that were doing similar things with hers, started competing with her, but she chose not to get moved by their actions, instead she was competing with herself. Sooner people started getting jealous of her success as she was getting all the attention and reward for her work. Because people were getting jealous and they were not getting as much attention as she was did not mean she had to stop working for them to be noticed.

If you stop working for the haters, then you are an hater of yourself. They are haters and until they change they will always hate. Even when you are not working, they are still hating. Ignore their hate, help them because we all need love but don’t take their hatred to heart. You should not let people make you feel like you need to hide or abandon your dreams. Your blessings are your blessings. Take it with pride when the reward of your work comes. Do not give out your reward. The blessings of your friend is her’s or his own blessings. Do not try to take her’s or his blessing too.

The theory is that you work and you get paid. If you don’t get paid, do not stop working because our role is to work and not worry about whether we are paid or not or worrying about the difficulty of working. We should do out part always and doing it really and very well and that will get us what we deserve which is our right. Avoid jealousy or trying to take what is not yours. I will end this write up with the famous quote “No pain, no gain”

 

 

 

How I (To) Live a Healthy Life

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I am not a professional in health counselling but who says you cannot learn or get knowledge from others even if professional help is the best? My aim is to let you know some of the processes I take towards how I live healthy and I hope you find it useful and begin to put them into practice.

Most times, when we hear healthy, we think it has to do with the body being healthy or not. But to be healthy, has not only to do with body but also the mind and soul. To live a healthy life, one has be ready to accept oneself for who they are. Why the need for accepting oneself? Because to want to live a healthy life, means to want to care for yourself and to care for yourself means you have to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are.

To eat healthy and balanced is the most popular when talking about healthy living. For most people, eating healthy is overlooked but eating healthy has a way of making us feel happy and loved, the site I will recommend to help you in your healthy eating habit is helpguide (Trusted guide to mental & emotional health)

There is a normal life routine which to work and earn a living is part of the routine. The general idea about working and being successful is that it is stressful and difficult. What we don’t understand is that to work helps our mind to be healthy. It is not just about being successful but the process of working keeps us healthy. It helps us to have a balanced mindset (Creativity)

Exercise: After I work and eat, exercise is one thing I don’t do without because it makes me feel refreshed, strengthened and ready to work. I will strongly recommend exercise to anyone. From heraldextra, 10 benefits of exercise

  • Being physically active will keep you healthy. Research says that engaging in 30 minutes of exercise a day is all you need to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
  • Exercise makes you happier! Physical activity releases chemicals in your brain called endorphins that are known to make you feel happier and more relaxed.
  • Regular physical activity has been proven to help prevent a wide variety of health problems.
  • Regular physical activity helps you sleep better. When you are active during the day, you typically fall asleep easier and stay asleep longer.
  • Exercise can be fun! Often times exercise can be a part of some your favorite daily activities, such as walking the dog, going to the playground, or riding your bike.
  • Exercise is good for your mind, body, and soul.
  • Exercise helps you maintain a healthy weight.
  • Exercise is good for your heart! It helps maintain a healthy blood pressure and improves circulation.
  • Exercise increases your energy level. Exercising delivers oxygen and nutrients to your whole body helping it to work more efficiently and boost your endurance.
  • Exercise and other physical activities are often great opportunities to socialize. Going to the playground, joining a sports team or going to the local recreation center are all great ways to meet new people.

Taking your bath regularly, using the right cream, trying to avoid injuries on your skin, treating your body and doing your hobbies (What you love). For me, I read, watch movies, listen to music and chat with friends. Having a personal time to find yourself, understand yourself, know yourself to help you know how to address yourself better is important in Personal care which will improve in healthy living

Socialize: From justbreathemag, 9 benefits of socializing

  • Helps in building positive and constructive relationships via the real social networks that are formed.
  • Socializing plays a pivotal role in improving overall growth and development of an individual.
  • As per Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin by SAGE, socializing enhances mental functioning, as the mind is kept occupied with real thoughts.
  • Stress and anxiety levels can be reduced to a great extent. Solutions to problems may be found in dialogue.
  • It provides great opportunity to understand various kinds of people, their mannerisms, personalities, thought processes and so on. Socializing develops better understanding of human perspectives and attributes.
  • Socializing is a great tool for development of self-confidence and giving your self-esteem the required boost. It kicks out shyness and hesitance from an individual making him ready to face the world in a smart manner.
  • It provides happiness and joy when you meet your family and friends in real rather that online life, as you can share issues and emotions more explicitly.
  • Socializing is a great way of giving and getting emotional, physical and spiritual support. Even if you are feeling down and upset with something, friends and family can help you overcome the difficult period with ease. They can cheer you up, provide the required encouragement and bring back your lost zeal and enthusiasm.
  • As per BUPA, socializing reduces risks of various kinds of ailments. Research reports have shown that socializing can help in preventing age related cognitive disorders like Alzheimer’s disease.

Because I cannot exist without you, because you cannot exist without me, because we cannot exist without each other. Mastering the art of having a good relationship with friends and family is one we cannot do without. There are two ways which I think will help you master the art of having good relationship with friends and family. To know the two ways, read my post on how to have a healthy relationship with friends and family.

Lastly, Be grateful: In life, we can meet ourselves in any situation. We should be grateful always in any situation we find ourselves in. Good or bad situation, be grateful. Sometimes you can be in a bad situation but really in a good situation in disguise and sometimes you can be in a good situation but in a good one in disguise. Be grateful to God always. Being grateful and thankful always open doors of greatness and opportunities.

According to the famous dj, djkhaled, “When you are great, be grateful” The best time to be grateful is when we are successful. People tend to forget to be grateful when they are successful. Sometimes, when we get what we have been asking for, we forget to show appreciation and sometimes end up being proud and controlling to others because of our success. In order to avoid our success taken away from us and to continually have open doors of opportunities, we should show gratitude always.

Think Big

 

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While reading Ben Carson’s think big book, I was inspired by the message from the book and got an inspiration to share the message I gained from my perspective.

If you think you cannot be successful or you don’t have the capabilities to dream big and achieve greatness, then you should ask yourself why you think you cannot be successful or have the capabilities to dream big and achieve greatness. If thinking big and achieving greatness feels scary to you then you are on the right path because if your dream doesn’t scare you, it is not big enough. If your dream is small, and you end up achieving your dream when it is small, you won’t have the feel of greatness. It is big and feels scary for a purpose. Never think small because thinking small gives no feeling of achievements and greatness.

Greatness by the name implies, great which can mean big. To achieve greatness, you have to be ready to think big and achieve big. Big can feel impossible or scary and that is why when done, it feels like greatness.

Why think small? because small is easy? and big is difficult? or because you think greatness is for some certain people? or you think greatness is not for you? In some of my posts titled take it or leave it, to make is to break and to break is to make? e.t.c I stated that whatever we think of something is what it will be. If you think you cannot do something then you cannot do it, if we think something is difficult, then it will be difficult and if you think something is small then it is small. Or you think greatness is not for you then it is not for you except get lucky. To have a positive mind is compulsory for a balanced emotional life and mind. The mind is very powerful

What is your dream? For those that don’t have a dream, set one now as you are reading this post and put it down is notebook and start working towards it. Scared of your dream? not sure you will be able to achieve your dream? Those feelings are normal. Your dreams are suppose to scare you. According to the popular quote, if your dream doesn’t scare you, then it isn’t big enough. There would be ups and down (bad and good times) because if there isn’t ups and downs, then your dream is small and you won’t feel greatness. You have to go through the struggle. It’s the struggle that makes you feel great. If you ignore the struggles then you are not doing something right.

The average thinking of greatness is to be rich but greatness does not only mean being rich but having a meaningful, rewarding and significant life. Your thinking about achieving big is difficult should not be thought about anymore. Wish you all the best in your life endeavours

How to be a Great Teacher

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According to Wikipedia, a teacher (also called a school teacher or, in some contexts, an educator) is a person who helps others to acquire knowledge, competences or values. The job of a teacher is great it’s self, If you are a teacher, I can say you are doing a great job/profession. To decide to be a great teacher only shows how great you are already because you have decided to want to not only improve on yourself but to help others to be better. I am an inspirational writer (guidance and counselling) in which I fall into the category of teaching. Though this write up is about how to be a great teacher but what I’m really intending to teach is “my idea” on how to be a great teacher. We all have different ideas, I can learn from you, you can learn from me. I’m not the best among others but I’m the best of myself and still learning and practicing to always be a better version of myself in which I hope you do the same.

To be a great teacher, one needs to first understand that it is a serious-minded job and one needs to be serious-minded. To understand that it is a serious minded job and one needs to be serious-minded, has qualified you to the next stage of being a great teacher. Serious-minded, according to oxford dictionaries means sincere, solemn, or thoughtful in character or manner. What is your definition of great? To have a common mind about being great in this write up because great has a lot of definitions. I will define great in this write-up as being excellent at what you do.

The job of a teacher, requires one to deal with people, their physical and mental capabilities. If you remember, I wrote one needs to first understand that teaching is a serious-minded job and one needs to be serious-minded. To deal with people and their physical and mental capabilities, one obviously has to be serious-minded. Dealing with one’s physical and mental capabilities of a person means developing, growing and building a human being. Without being taught one way or the other while growing up, we probably would have all been barbarians. The teaching profession, is one that carries a lot of responsibilities, good qualities and morals.

How to be a Great Teacher

Learn and perfect the skill of understanding people: The main purpose of learning the skill of understanding people is because you will need it for addressing people properly. When you understand people, addressing, talking to others properly will help better teaching. Understanding the kind of people they are, what they like not what you like or what you want for them and imposing it on them, where they come from, their perspective about life will make you a great teacher. Knowing these things, will improve your teaching skill (Passing knowledge) and people will see you as an understanding person which is very important for the profession.

Correct for the purpose of learning: You can correct nicely but being always nice is not good. Spare the rod and spoil the child. Not all the time you use the rod. We should know when to correct nicely and when to correct with the rod. One way one can use the rod is when the student has really messed up. When a student is wrong, correct only for the purpose of the student to understand and learn. If you correct but the student does not know why, it’s a wasted effort.

Give compliments and have time for fun: At the end of any work done properly, a teacher should have the habit of complimenting the student. As this will help in the child’s better living and your recognition. According to the popular saying, all work and no play make jack a dull boy. The students should also be allowed to have a good amount of fun.

Motivate: This is one main quality every teacher should possess. The skill of motivating. Telling your students they can do it always is very important in the profession of teaching. Never bring them down or make them feel incapable or not good enough but rather motivating them properly according to their talents. The teachers themselves need motivation as no one is perfect. I sometimes read motivational quotes when I need to get inspired when I feel down and they work perfectly well for me.

Be ready to learn from your students: Everyone is a teacher and the purpose of teaching is to learn from the teacher. To be ready to always be a student to your students will improve you mentally, physically and be a better version of yourself.

Lastly and most importantly, Be Generous: Because a teacher deals with people, a teacher needs to be generous, show love always, have a happy face, a forgiving heart and above all be noble and classy.

To be a great teacher, one needs to possess these qualities always and be recognized with them. I can guarantee you that if you always possess this qualities, you will be a great teacher. Ideas are appreciated and welcomed from you in the comment section to help me, others and you.

I will close this write up with this popular saying, “Teaching is the mother of all professions”

Responsibilities of Parents to Children

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The title of this post is responsibilities as parents not as individuals to children i.e mother to children or father to children but as parents to children meaning both the mother and father working together. We might think sometimes we only have individual responsibilities to the children but we are wrong. For example, a football team has to work together to have a great football team, the leaders of a country has to work together to have a good, happy and great country. The same goes for the parents to children. The parents have to also work together to have the best children they can ever imagine for themselves and for the society.  There’s a popular saying, “If you want to go fast go alone, If you want to go far, go together”

Before parents get married, I expect there should have at least being a common understanding about each others personalities and other necessary things. Parents first need to come together, understand what each of them want for their children, scrap out the unnecessary things and keep the things that are necessary for the upbringing of the children together as this will bring about unity and great work of upbringing of the children for their satisfactions as parents which should help in the children’s healthy living and growth as a family.

The Responsibilities of Parents to Children

Religion and Spirituality: This is the first and the most important responsibility to the children. The basis of us on this earth stands on religion and spirituality. Taking your children to church, teaching them the ways and behaviours of a christian life is one they will not be able to do without because relating to one another requires good behaviour and a sense of maturity.

Education (School): As parents, the second most important thing you can ever give to your children is sending them to good and sound schools. Why good and sound schools? In one of my posts, titled philosophy of education I wrote, “Education is the transfer of quality information. The future is in what we give out. How you educate someone determines how the future will be. Your society is determined by the quality of information that is transferred among one another.
Information spreads like a celebrity’s leaked nude picture and information can get distorted the way a nude picture can be photo shopped.
Most of the life experiences of your kid(s) come from the school(s) they go to.
What type of school(s) do you send your kid(s) to? The school(s) that the lecturers sleep in class rooms? Or the school(s) that the lecturers don’t know half of what they are teaching? Or the schools that overlook bad behaviours?
What future do you want for your kid(s)?” The behaviours your kids are likely to show are behaviours from home and school and that is why you should send them to good and sound schools and that is why education the the second most important thing you can give to your children as parents.

Love: If not love as the third most important, then what else? In one of my posts titled your children not yours, I wrote “Your children are given to you for the main time
They don’t belong to you
They came from you
Love and teach right them , let them go, let them make mistakes
They will learn from your teaching
They will thank you
They will love you”

When as parents, you show your children love, they will learn from you, live happy, stay great and you will end up developing the best children for yourselves as parents and also for the society.

Lastly, self development: The moment we stop learning is the moment we are dead. Because as parents this is one of the responsibilities you give to your children, you have to also be learning to also self developed yourselves as parents for continuous healthy living in the family. Self development in terms of teaching the male children the developments of a man and female children developments of a woman e.g Marriage and Courtesy.

 

A Guide to Success

 

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I have written quite a number of posts that will help you to succeed. They are create yourself, self productivity, but keep moving, it is not impossible, what do you think you are doing with your life, stay focused and so on. But adding one, two or three points to the listed posts above will also greatly help in achieving success.

When you woke up this morning, what where the things you planned to achieve today?, this month?, or this year? If you do not plan everyday towards your goals, I advice you include planing as part of your strategy to success.

Why planning? Planning because it would help you to achieve more daily, monthly and yearly, help you to be focused and address things of importance and things of non-importance. The link below will give you a guide to a successful future from wikihow “Plan for a successful future“. For me, I plan by executing the most important things first, go for a break and execute the least important things. Depending on our persons, you can execute the least important things first, go for a break and most important but without allowing laziness to be in our plan.

If what you always say is I will do it later, I will do it later, I will do it later, then it is better to say I will never do it than deceive yourself. Avoid procrastination. It brings about backwardness and big fail. Gratification which is the opposite of delay gratification is one thing we should also avoid because the main work will never be accomplished properly. When all you do is the easiest work because you are lazy, then when it’s time to execute the big work, you will end up unproductive. Procrastination and gratification are things that we should not welcome when we want to succeed.

 

 

To be Rich or To be Rich?

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To be content with what you have automatically makes you one of the richest men or women in the world.

Why?…

There are lots of definitions of RICH but I will focus on just two.

According to Cambridge’s dictionary, the first definition which I assume we all know is having a lot of money or valuable possessions. The second definition I chose to focus on is having a strong, pleasing or attractive way in sound, smell, taste or colour.

To be rich (Money) does not necessarily mean you are rich (Attractive). Well it all depends on us i.e what we want for ourselves, which is to be rich (Money) or to be rich (Attractive) or both.

You can be rich (Money) and still be Poor (Unattractive). You can be poor (No money) and be rich (Attractive). Choose your actions wisely and set your priorities right. Ask yourself this question. To be rich (Money) or to be rich (Attractive)?. If you ask me, I’ll say to be rich (Attractive). There’s a popular saying “Dress how you want to be addressed”. If you are rich(Money) and look Poor(Unattractive), people will address you the way they see you which will make you confused because you are rich(Money) but they treat you like you are poor(Unattractive).

To emphasize on being rich(Attractive), To be rich(Attractive) means your behaviour, looks are good and decent and your body, mind and soul are healthy.

You can have all the money in this world and still be treated with utmost disrespect, not loved and with no importance because your looks and behaviours are poor (Unattractive). If you read my post on the psychology of money, you will know how important money is. The way money is important to us, is the way attractiveness of our behaviours, looks, body, mind and soul is important and that is why we should nourish our personality and looks always. Personality which addresses the area of contentment. When you are content with what you have, you are one of the richest men and women in the world

What can be rich(Money) for you, might be poor(Money) for me and vice versa.
In conclusion, to be content is the foundation of any type of riches and happiness.

The quotes below will help you get more ideas and understanding about contentment.
I am content; that is a blessing greater than riches; and he to whom that is given need ask no more.” ― Henry Fielding
We need much less than we think we need.” ―  Maya Angelou
Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ― Lao Tzu
Many people lose the small joys in the hope for the big happiness.” ― Pearl S. Buck
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough” ― Oprah Winfrey

It is not Impossible

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While growing up, there were some things I saw as impossible, outrageous or things I might not be able to do e.g having confidence, public speaking, be outspoken or showcasing a work. I want to assume some or most of us are or were like that. I have heard these quotes countless of times “There’s nothing that is impossible” and “You are good enough” but deep down I never really got convinced.

Looking back at how far have gone with this blog, showcasing my work and having confidence, I decided to inspire the world on believing in yourself, not look down on yourself like the way I used to, never think your work will never be good enough, never think you are not good enough or never think you can never achieve what you set your mind to do and nothing is impossible.

Never thought or saw myself as someone that would be a writer or an inspirational writer, I started writing/blogging last year October 28, Now, my blog has 55 followers, getting recognition from different countries and search engines and gets lots of complements which makes me feel happy and proud of myself. I decided/chose not to be scared, timid, care about what people will say or think of my writings negatively. As I started, I was not perfect, still not perfect, no one is perfect. I’m still learning to be better than what I was yesterday and achieve my goals.

It always seems impossible until it is done – Nelson Mandela
To believe a thing is impossible, is to make it so – French Proverbs
We would accomplish many more things if we did not think of them as impossible.” – Vince Lombardi
The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” – Robert Schuller

Do it now and be better than yesterday
Never do it and be in regrets.
Nothing is impossible. You can do what ever you set your mind to. You are the best at being you. Nobody can be better at being you.

In one of my posts titled be yourself, I wrote,

“We are all arts
Every art in the museum has it’s unique beauty
If you don’t represent your uniqueness,
Who will do that for you?”

I hope with this write up, I have been able to convince you that you can achieve anything you dream of, you are good enough and nothing is impossible.

Wake Up!!!

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Sometimes we are in the light but we are in the dark, sometimes we are in the dark but truly in the light.
Sometimes life can put us in a situation we are happy with and also put us in a situation we are not happy with.
Sometimes we are happy for what we have but they are not want we want or need and sometimes sad we don’t have enough but we don’t know we have all we need.
We think we are awake but we are sleeping.
Wake up and stop sleeping
where are you?
Is that where you wish or want to be?
Is that where you are suppose to be?
Make sure you know where you are
Make sure you know you are happy for the right things i.e things you wish, want , expect or comfortable with.
Never be in the dark instead be aware.
That way, the control of your life is in your hands and not in another man’s, constant happiness and peace of mind because you are doing what you want, wish and comfortable with.

What do you Think you are Doing With Your Life?

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What are you doing?
Do you know what you are doing with your life?
How important is what you are doing now to you?
Is what you are doing now, what you are happy with?
If you answered No to the questions above, then what do you think you are doing with your life?

In one of the paragraphs I wrote in my book that will be published before august hopefully and will be available for sale online will help you to answer Yes to the questions above. I wrote “everyone has their own perspective to life , their own rules, how to behave, when to do something or not. Having your own rule or not might not be the most important but doing what makes you happy and fulfilled is the most important”

Answering Yes to the questions means you know what you are doing with your life, you are happy, making progress and making progress is the way to something being successful.

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out – Robert Collier.”

 

To Make is to Break, To Break is to Make

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In a normal concept, to break is to rip or to destroy. To make is to develop or to build. The two are both doing something in common which is to produce something new. I want to assume that, with this explanation, you know the conclusion of this article.
Since to make and break is to produce something new, and a new thing can either be bad or good,
In my post titled bad and good, I wrote.
Bad is good and bad
Good is bad and good

In also on one of my posts titled take it or leave it, I wrote.
A situation is only difficult because we think it is difficult.

I will add this to it. A situation is simple because we think it is. While stumbling through the internet, I found 7 surprising health benefits of eating dirts. There are lots of uses of dirts. Sand which is used to grow fruits we eat or trees which are then used to make papper. If we fail to see the good in the bad then we will always see bad in the good. If these things that we call bad are useful, then a bad situation is bad because we think it is bad and good because we think it is good.  Read my post on is enough enough? for more understanding.

How to be Mature

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In my opinion, to be mature takes a lot of hardwork. To be hardworking is a necessity in our lives just like eating is a necessity because without food you will be unwell and being unwell sometimes lead to death. There’s a saying, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Maturity is taking responsibility for all your actions. Accepting compliments at the same time accepting failures and taking the necessary actions after acknowledging your compliments and failures. Taking the necessary actions after accepting your compliments and failures is what maturity is about and that is where more than half of the hardwork comes from.

Self control, that is, having the ability to make decisions of your own anywhere you are, being able to say No or Yes when it is necessary based on your interests and what you think it’s right without causing any quarrel. This is what is called having a mind of your own most times but I call it self control. To expatiate on self control, to be clearer, it is the ability to know when to play, when to work, when to do chores etc. Even if at the moment you feel like playing, self control is knowing if playing is the best for you to do at that moment.

Maturity is also knowing the good from the bad. If your father should tell you to do something, maturity is not doing it because you think it is bad. But with respect. Like I said earlier without causing any quarrels. To be mature, will make you stronger physically and mentally. You will constantly be improving and developing yourself. Future situations will be easier for you to handle.

Take it or Leave it

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Have read quite a number of quotes and write ups that are about how life is about choosing how you want your life to be, taking what you want to take and whatever you are is by your making. Have had reasons to disagree with those quotes and write ups because I assumed that some situations might be difficult or challenging to deal with.

Are there truly difficult situations?

A situation is only difficult because we think it is difficult. We should not call any situation simple or difficult but rather things we should address. Since they are things we should address, then we should do the necessary things in addressing them.

In achieving whatever you want to achieve, you need to put your mind there, and do the necessary things in achieving it or your mind will be put by someone else or will be useless but according to the popular saying, “never cry over a spilled milk”