Never Dim Your Light For Anyone

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In trying to achieve what you set our mind to do, one challenge you are likely to face is the challenge of coming across people that will want to you to reduce your light for them so that they can be noticed. People will even go to the extent of making you feel like a bad person and a wicked person for your own reward of your work, blessing or success. You reap what you sow. If you give out what you reaped then that is very bad. It means you are giving your success out.

I have a very close friend that started something she loved even if she was scared about the success of the thing she started. When she started, everything was going well for her but as she continues, friends that were doing similar things with hers, started competing with her, but she chose not to get moved by their actions, instead she was competing with herself. Sooner people started getting jealous of her success as she was getting all the attention and reward for her work. Because people were getting jealous and they were not getting as much attention as she was did not mean she had to stop working for them to be noticed.

If you stop working for the haters, then you are an hater of yourself. They are haters and until they change they will always hate. Even when you are not working, they are still hating. Ignore their hate, help them because we all need love but don’t take their hatred to heart. You should not let people make you feel like you need to hide or abandon your dreams. Your blessings are your blessings. Take it with pride when the reward of your work comes. Do not give out your reward. The blessings of your friend is her’s or his own blessings. Do not try to take her’s or his blessing too.

The theory is that you work and you get paid. If you don’t get paid, do not stop working because our role is to work and not worry about whether we are paid or not or worrying about the difficulty of working. We should do out part always and doing it really and very well and that will get us what we deserve which is our right. Avoid jealousy or trying to take what is not yours. I will end this write up with the famous quote “No pain, no gain”

 

 

 

Think Big

 

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While reading Ben Carson’s think big book, I was inspired by the message from the book and got an inspiration to share the message I gained from my perspective.

If you think you cannot be successful or you don’t have the capabilities to dream big and achieve greatness, then you should ask yourself why you think you cannot be successful or have the capabilities to dream big and achieve greatness. If thinking big and achieving greatness feels scary to you then you are on the right path because if your dream doesn’t scare you, it is not big enough. If your dream is small, and you end up achieving your dream when it is small, you won’t have the feel of greatness. It is big and feels scary for a purpose. Never think small because thinking small gives no feeling of achievements and greatness.

Greatness by the name implies, great which can mean big. To achieve greatness, you have to be ready to think big and achieve big. Big can feel impossible or scary and that is why when done, it feels like greatness.

Why think small? because small is easy? and big is difficult? or because you think greatness is for some certain people? or you think greatness is not for you? In some of my posts titled take it or leave it, to make is to break and to break is to make? e.t.c I stated that whatever we think of something is what it will be. If you think you cannot do something then you cannot do it, if we think something is difficult, then it will be difficult and if you think something is small then it is small. Or you think greatness is not for you then it is not for you except get lucky. To have a positive mind is compulsory for a balanced emotional life and mind. The mind is very powerful

What is your dream? For those that don’t have a dream, set one now as you are reading this post and put it down is notebook and start working towards it. Scared of your dream? not sure you will be able to achieve your dream? Those feelings are normal. Your dreams are suppose to scare you. According to the popular quote, if your dream doesn’t scare you, then it isn’t big enough. There would be ups and down (bad and good times) because if there isn’t ups and downs, then your dream is small and you won’t feel greatness. You have to go through the struggle. It’s the struggle that makes you feel great. If you ignore the struggles then you are not doing something right.

The average thinking of greatness is to be rich but greatness does not only mean being rich but having a meaningful, rewarding and significant life. Your thinking about achieving big is difficult should not be thought about anymore. Wish you all the best in your life endeavours

How to be a Great Teacher

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According to Wikipedia, a teacher (also called a school teacher or, in some contexts, an educator) is a person who helps others to acquire knowledge, competences or values. The job of a teacher is great it’s self, If you are a teacher, I can say you are doing a great job/profession. To decide to be a great teacher only shows how great you are already because you have decided to want to not only improve on yourself but to help others to be better. I am an inspirational writer (guidance and counselling) in which I fall into the category of teaching. Though this write up is about how to be a great teacher but what I’m really intending to teach is “my idea” on how to be a great teacher. We all have different ideas, I can learn from you, you can learn from me. I’m not the best among others but I’m the best of myself and still learning and practicing to always be a better version of myself in which I hope you do the same.

To be a great teacher, one needs to first understand that it is a serious-minded job and one needs to be serious-minded. To understand that it is a serious minded job and one needs to be serious-minded, has qualified you to the next stage of being a great teacher. Serious-minded, according to oxford dictionaries means sincere, solemn, or thoughtful in character or manner. What is your definition of great? To have a common mind about being great in this write up because great has a lot of definitions. I will define great in this write-up as being excellent at what you do.

The job of a teacher, requires one to deal with people, their physical and mental capabilities. If you remember, I wrote one needs to first understand that teaching is a serious-minded job and one needs to be serious-minded. To deal with people and their physical and mental capabilities, one obviously has to be serious-minded. Dealing with one’s physical and mental capabilities of a person means developing, growing and building a human being. Without being taught one way or the other while growing up, we probably would have all been barbarians. The teaching profession, is one that carries a lot of responsibilities, good qualities and morals.

How to be a Great Teacher

Learn and perfect the skill of understanding people: The main purpose of learning the skill of understanding people is because you will need it for addressing people properly. When you understand people, addressing, talking to others properly will help better teaching. Understanding the kind of people they are, what they like not what you like or what you want for them and imposing it on them, where they come from, their perspective about life will make you a great teacher. Knowing these things, will improve your teaching skill (Passing knowledge) and people will see you as an understanding person which is very important for the profession.

Correct for the purpose of learning: You can correct nicely but being always nice is not good. Spare the rod and spoil the child. Not all the time you use the rod. We should know when to correct nicely and when to correct with the rod. One way one can use the rod is when the student has really messed up. When a student is wrong, correct only for the purpose of the student to understand and learn. If you correct but the student does not know why, it’s a wasted effort.

Give compliments and have time for fun: At the end of any work done properly, a teacher should have the habit of complimenting the student. As this will help in the child’s better living and your recognition. According to the popular saying, all work and no play make jack a dull boy. The students should also be allowed to have a good amount of fun.

Motivate: This is one main quality every teacher should possess. The skill of motivating. Telling your students they can do it always is very important in the profession of teaching. Never bring them down or make them feel incapable or not good enough but rather motivating them properly according to their talents. The teachers themselves need motivation as no one is perfect. I sometimes read motivational quotes when I need to get inspired when I feel down and they work perfectly well for me.

Be ready to learn from your students: Everyone is a teacher and the purpose of teaching is to learn from the teacher. To be ready to always be a student to your students will improve you mentally, physically and be a better version of yourself.

Lastly and most importantly, Be Generous: Because a teacher deals with people, a teacher needs to be generous, show love always, have a happy face, a forgiving heart and above all be noble and classy.

To be a great teacher, one needs to possess these qualities always and be recognized with them. I can guarantee you that if you always possess this qualities, you will be a great teacher. Ideas are appreciated and welcomed from you in the comment section to help me, others and you.

I will close this write up with this popular saying, “Teaching is the mother of all professions”

Sex Education

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In my own perspective, most times when youths hear about sex education, they have this insecure feelings towards the topic. Why such insecurities? Some are shy of the topic because of our different persons, some are confident about the topic, some feel terrified e.t.c but in general context, most are insecure because of how the society has made or described sex education to be.

Let’s all have a common understanding about sex education. When you hear of sex education what comes to your mind first? Let me assume sex? only sex? and sex?. Sex education does not only have to do with sex. Sex education is a very broad topic in which sex is one of the subjects of sex education. The other topics under sex education are (from what is sex education in planned parenthood)

  • Human Development (including reproduction, puberty, sexual orientation, and gender identity)
  • Relationships (including families, friendships, romantic relationships and dating)
  • Personal Skills (including communication, negotiation, and decision-making)
  • Sexual Behavior (including abstinence and sexuality throughout life)
  • Sexual Health (including sexually transmitted diseases, contraception, and pregnancy)
  • Society and Culture (including gender roles, diversity, and sexuality in the media)

The purpose of this write up, is for you hear sex education and not only think about sex but to widen your knowledge to know that sex education not only has to do with sex. In which that has been done in the bullets above and to hear sex education and not feel insecure.

To not feel insecure about sex education when you hear the topic, is to know that sex is a normal way of life in marriages. If you hear sex education and you feel insecure, how do you expect to learn more about sex education with the insecurity feelings? To not feel insecure about sex education when we hear it is one of the characteristics of maturity. In which I believe to be mature is a great thing and maturity is something everyone would want to be recognized with.

Because it is a thing of the mind to feel insecure about a certain thing, it would be a gradual process or gradual learning of enlightening yourself to have a solid foundation and to know that sex education is just as normal as eating, breathing and sleeping. As learning is a gradual process, whatever you want to achieve, you have to set your mind to it and start Now! by reading articles on the internet. There are a lot of websites that describes sex education widely. One website I will recommend is wikihowsexeducation

With this article, your insecurities about sex education, should be 10% gone, the other 90% starts with you because according to the popular saying, you can take the horse to the water but you cannot force it to drink.

Responsibilities of Parents to Children

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The title of this post is responsibilities as parents not as individuals to children i.e mother to children or father to children but as parents to children meaning both the mother and father working together. We might think sometimes we only have individual responsibilities to the children but we are wrong. For example, a football team has to work together to have a great football team, the leaders of a country has to work together to have a good, happy and great country. The same goes for the parents to children. The parents have to also work together to have the best children they can ever imagine for themselves and for the society.  There’s a popular saying, “If you want to go fast go alone, If you want to go far, go together”

Before parents get married, I expect there should have at least being a common understanding about each others personalities and other necessary things. Parents first need to come together, understand what each of them want for their children, scrap out the unnecessary things and keep the things that are necessary for the upbringing of the children together as this will bring about unity and great work of upbringing of the children for their satisfactions as parents which should help in the children’s healthy living and growth as a family.

The Responsibilities of Parents to Children

Religion and Spirituality: This is the first and the most important responsibility to the children. The basis of us on this earth stands on religion and spirituality. Taking your children to church, teaching them the ways and behaviours of a christian life is one they will not be able to do without because relating to one another requires good behaviour and a sense of maturity.

Education (School): As parents, the second most important thing you can ever give to your children is sending them to good and sound schools. Why good and sound schools? In one of my posts, titled philosophy of education I wrote, “Education is the transfer of quality information. The future is in what we give out. How you educate someone determines how the future will be. Your society is determined by the quality of information that is transferred among one another.
Information spreads like a celebrity’s leaked nude picture and information can get distorted the way a nude picture can be photo shopped.
Most of the life experiences of your kid(s) come from the school(s) they go to.
What type of school(s) do you send your kid(s) to? The school(s) that the lecturers sleep in class rooms? Or the school(s) that the lecturers don’t know half of what they are teaching? Or the schools that overlook bad behaviours?
What future do you want for your kid(s)?” The behaviours your kids are likely to show are behaviours from home and school and that is why you should send them to good and sound schools and that is why education the the second most important thing you can give to your children as parents.

Love: If not love as the third most important, then what else? In one of my posts titled your children not yours, I wrote “Your children are given to you for the main time
They don’t belong to you
They came from you
Love and teach right them , let them go, let them make mistakes
They will learn from your teaching
They will thank you
They will love you”

When as parents, you show your children love, they will learn from you, live happy, stay great and you will end up developing the best children for yourselves as parents and also for the society.

Lastly, self development: The moment we stop learning is the moment we are dead. Because as parents this is one of the responsibilities you give to your children, you have to also be learning to also self developed yourselves as parents for continuous healthy living in the family. Self development in terms of teaching the male children the developments of a man and female children developments of a woman e.g Marriage and Courtesy.

 

Philosophy of Education

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Education is the transfer of quality information. The future is in what we give out. How you educate someone determines how the future will be. Your society is determined by the quality of information that is transferred with one another.
Information spreads like a celebrity’s leaked nude picture and information can get distorted the way a nude picture can be photo shopped.
Most of the life experiences of your kid(s) come from the school(s) they go to.
What type of school(s) do you send your kid(s) to? The school(s) that the lecturers sleep in class rooms? Or the school(s) that the lecturers don’t know half of what they are teaching? Or the schools that overlook bad behaviours?
What future do you want for your kid(s)?

Stop Drug Abuse

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The abuse of drugs is the path to destruction. Drug abuse reduces your self-worth and your self-esteem. You think it makes you feel good, instead it gives you a feeling that cannot be described sensibly.
Taking drugs and saying that it feels good is like breathing and saying breathing feels good. Drug destroys, the more you take, the closer to being an addict
When you are on drugs and an addict, you will not be as productive as when you are not on drugs.
Work and get high on your success